Cowart's Common Room

Okay, I'm know I'm totally boring because we've covered this topic before and I've blogged about it today but just wondered if any of you are on Facebook?

Does anyone know what its purpose is supposed it be apart from making friends? I have made 18 friends over the weekend! Never made so many in my lifetime. Mind you, I'll only meet one or two of them.

CJ xx

Posted at 10th Nov 2008 - 11:08AM   Posted by Crystal Jigsaw   Facebook Comments: 26

Arosebyanyothername's Avatar Yes, I am on facebook. Three people count me as their friend! I hardly know two of them.

Posted by: Arosebyanyothername on 10th Nov 2008 at 11:12AM

Westerwitch's Avatar Nope not on Facebook - I have never really looked at it - although I have had invites to join - I gather the object is to make friends and you are 'rated' by how many friends you have.

Posted by: Westerwitch on 10th Nov 2008 at 11:19AM

Oh God, don't get me on the subject of Facebook! Rolling Eyes
I got various invites from far flung friends to join and felt a right misery moo when I rejected their offers (in fact one stopped emailing me altogether as she was clearly deeply offended!). Personally I think it's a monumental waste of time, specially if you're a Purplecooer and a blogger. Frankly I don't have time to do either of those things properly let alone faff about on Facebook looking at other people's photos of when they last got drunk at a barbecue in Bali. It really does seem to be a lot of fuss about nothing to me. And I certainly don't understand the Friends thing. In fact I don't really understand the site at all Confused . At which point I have to fess up that I DID eventually cave in and join (because a lovely French girl I know invited me to and I adore her and all her family). Cos that's the point. You have to join the wretched thing to see your friends' news etc. Anyway, I think it's more for bored housewives or Yoof. It asks you things like 'What are you doing now?'. Well, you stupid machine, I'm sitting at my computer looking at the screen. Anyone who says they're quilting or watching TV or reading a fab novel is obviously lying - have you ever tried quilting and typing into the computer at the same time? Or frying an egg? Bloomin ridiculous. Last time I looked I had just the two 'Friends' who'd kept pestering me to join and thank God for that. I don't want no strangers hanging out with me, fanx! (oops, then that would include you lot then...! Ah, but you don't count. You're all my friends, even if I don't know you. Let's just call it a common bond. A Cowart's Common Room bond. And, let's face it, originally a country lifestyle magazine bond (say no more!)).

OK, so have I made my feelings clear? Hey Crystal, I've just thought - you can come and be my Facebook Friend if you like! (But I won't be hanging out there much, mind...)

And now off I'm going to read your blog on it - much more interesting!


Posted by: Her On The Hill on 10th Nov 2008 at 12:24PM

Faith's Avatar My youngest daughter is on Facebook, as are all her friends. I think it is more a way of telling everyone what you are doing, showing photos etc rather than of making friends. Em communicates and keeps us with her real friends through it, and although someone occasionally 'nudges' her or 'winks' her (or whatever the expression is on Facebook!) i.e. shows interest and wants to be her 'friend' I don't think she just adds people she doesnt know. After all, if she did they would know a lot of personal stuff about her.

I'm not totally happy about all of what she puts up - for example when we got married she put up pics of our wedding, but unlike blogging it isnt for all the world to see.

No criticism to you CJ or Arose or anyone else on Facebook, but I think it is more an under 25's sort of thing. Well that's my two pence worth anyway (not my tuppence worth you notice!!!Laughing)

Posted by: Faith on 10th Nov 2008 at 12:28PM

Toady's Avatar I enrolled but couldn't make head nor tail of it.
Haven't been back.

Posted by: Toady on 10th Nov 2008 at 01:02PM

Crystal Jigsaw's Avatar Lots of different opinions. I certainly will not be telling everyone what I'm doing, even if it is only staring at a computer screen. Under 25's? well I am a spring chicken Very Happy

Posted by: Crystal Jigsaw on 10th Nov 2008 at 01:34PM

Exmoorjane's Avatar I'm on it and it cracks me up that I am! An editor I know suggested I should do it for work purposes as she said it was a good form of networking. Hmm. Haven't had one bit of work through it so far. However, it does throw up some people from the past. I've had two or three school friends get in touch. Is that a good thing? Not sure really. We exchanged a few emails and then, probably simultaneously realised we didn't want to take it any further and quietly stopped emailing!

I agree that predominantly it's a young thing. I too don't have the time to do the various quizes and things that people post. I tend to accept requests (if I know the person! have to say I've had a few people ask to be friends that are total blanks as far as I'm concerned....wsa I THAT drunk?) but I don't go hunting for people.

Sooo, suppose I'm merrily in the middle on it. Can't be parsed with it much myself but can see why (as HotH says, if you don't have Blogger or PC) it could be a way to keep up with people.

Posted by: Exmoorjane on 10th Nov 2008 at 02:10PM

Crystal Jigsaw's Avatar One of the good things for me especially (and Casdok) is that there are lots of organisations on there connected with disabilities, autism, special needs etc so it's a good way to make contact in that respect.

Posted by: Crystal Jigsaw on 10th Nov 2008 at 03:03PM

Exmoorjane's Avatar Yup, can see that totally. Sometimes also I find it useful for contacting people if their email goes weird....
I also have a profile on Plaxo (do I mean Plaxo? haven't looked at it for ages) which is supposedly a more business orientated one - though, again, not an ounce of work from it....

Posted by: Exmoorjane on 10th Nov 2008 at 04:08PM

LittleBrownDog's Avatar Afraid I tend to be with Her on the Hill re: Facebook. Although I can see the point if it puts you in touch with people with experience of Special Needs or something similar. Totally flummoxed by Plaxo Shocked and, like Jane, managed to waste a lot of time trying to work out how it worked, but not a sniff of work Mad

Posted by: LittleBrownDog on 10th Nov 2008 at 04:37PM

Withy Brook's Avatar Think there must have been a heave to get more friends - does it act like a Mexican Wave, do you think? Rolling Eyes I got asked to be friends by several people yesterday who were all friends of my nephew, who persuaded me to go on at the beginning. Haven't really sussed out how it works yet. Where's the time - or inclination - I ask myself!

Posted by: Withy Brook on 10th Nov 2008 at 05:32PM

I waste enough time on hereRolling Eyes

Posted by: @themill on 10th Nov 2008 at 05:50PM

Milla's Avatar I keep getting e-mails about Plaxo, and it mentions 2 or 3 friends of mine in the title line, and a complete stranger! different friends and a different stranger each time. And, as with ATM, quite enough time wasting going on here without a whole new set of rules to learn, "friends" to make. We need an emoticon for YAWN!!

Posted by: Milla on 10th Nov 2008 at 05:58PM

KittyB's Avatar I'm on it because people kept asking me to join, as if they haven't enough ways of getting in touch with me already.

I think it's meant to be the older person's MySpace or Bebo, which are both for young things, but I admit I do feel kind of old on Facebook.

I don't use it much, my niece and nephews send me messages, and two cousins have just made me their friend, otherwise it's old colleagues or friends I don't see very much, so it can be a useful way of keeping in touch with people whose details you may not be up to date with.

CJ I'll PM you, you can be my friend.

Posted by: KittyB on 10th Nov 2008 at 06:02PM

Salle de Bain's Avatar Yes, I joined...I was just trying to be cool because I'm feeling a bit old these days.

My daughter's first post for me on the 'wall' was "welcome to the 21st Century Mum".....

However, I haven't a clue what I'm supposed to do now that I'm on.

Some of my friends join in the hope that old flames will get in touch...Oh my God!!! can't think of anything worse in my case (rushing to 'unjoin' as we speak!!).

Look up 'The Six Degrees of Separation' someone tried to explain to me how that is somehow part of Facebook's ethos...but it was all too much for me...I couldn't understand head nor tail!!!

Posted by: Salle de Bain on 10th Nov 2008 at 06:07PM

Exmoorjane's Avatar btw, Kitty reminds me of my manners - if anyone DOES want to be friends (as in Facebook friends) I'd be delighted......PM me your details and we'll write on each others walls!

Posted by: Exmoorjane on 10th Nov 2008 at 06:53PM

Crystal Jigsaw's Avatar Oooh, more friends! Not much time myself but I do like to pop in and keep "in touch" with the times. Even though I am a spring chicken, I'll be 40 next year and I need to be 20 again Rolling Eyes

Posted by: Crystal Jigsaw on 10th Nov 2008 at 07:24PM

Milla's Avatar I hate anything which is going to make people feel anxious, or left out, or not have enough "numbers" and the number of people I've encountered on it who I know and who are claiming 250 friends, but it's all just ANYONE who walked past them in the corridor, well, it's sad, isn't it??? Immaterial, but sad, non?

Posted by: Milla on 10th Nov 2008 at 08:36PM

Exmoorjane's Avatar That part of it seems pointless and silly to me. At least I can say that I know all my Facebook friends, even those I have yet to meet! I too know someone with over 300 'friends' on Facebook.....and it does smack of desperation somehow. But, hey, I'm now friends with Crystal and Casdok (as if I wasn't already) and have nudged DJ ...... SO that's my Facebook flurry for the next month or so....

Posted by: Exmoorjane on 10th Nov 2008 at 09:11PM

Exmoorjane's Avatar Having said that, Adrian uses it a lot for work and networking....amongst his beery friends....I guess that's the common interest bit again... I'm way too randomVery Happy

Posted by: Exmoorjane on 10th Nov 2008 at 09:13PM

I'm on facebook and myspace. They are useful for a lot of things, like staying in touch with a group of people without having to send separate emails to each of them. You can send bulletins.

The thing I like most is the ability to put up a scrapbook of photos and share those either wiht people on facebook - or not. You can send a link to anyone with an email and they can then view your photos. We do holidays show and tell and as my family and friends are all over the world this works well. I work in horseracing too we often share sales photos or new horses.

I guess my personal circumstances work well with facebook as a lot of people in racing, jockeys, trainers, lads and lasses are all on the network so we cheer each other on and share photos. Sometimes someone will recommend a new friend for us too. But that is not the main reaosn for using this.

The other thing that I LOVE about these two sites is the good that they can both do. There are a lot of charities on both who can advertise their causes, and you can donate online or show yur support by having a badge on your profile page. They are very successful and quite right too - the last one was Phil's Million, the disabled serviceman trying to raise a million pounds for other servicemen.

I agree it can take up a lot of time but for people who work on computers it can just be a light break from spreadsheets etc.

There are a lot of games and fun things on facebook, unlike myspace. I often ignore them, but it has a grand facility to send cards, cakes and flowers to people for occasions. And that is good for the planet - they even donate an amount to the rain forest for every pretend plant you send, and it is free to send them!

I'm not that young and it took me awhile to get the hang of these sites but I love them now. It's all about communication.

Posted by: Crucifix on 10th Nov 2008 at 09:24PM

LittleBrownDog's Avatar Random - hey, that could be my middle name Cool.

(Actually, I wouldn't be at all surprised if it actually was someone's middle name. Or even their first name, come to that. I can just see it in the New York Times: To Woody and Sheree, a daughter, Random, sister to Satchell and Tallulladoesthehula.Wink)

Posted by: LittleBrownDog on 10th Nov 2008 at 09:27PM

Irish Eyes's Avatar I joined it, at the behest as they say, of the daughters, never bother going near it though, found it totally freaky to suddenly have more friends than I could fit in the kitchen for a glass of merlot.

In my humble opinion you couldn't do better than the Common Room here, not to mention the fora that we all can trip in and out of.

My first two friends were one of the daughters and a cousin, suddenly after the cousin added me to his I found I had friends in Wyoming, Wogga Wogga and God knows where else...

I'm quite contented here with the civilised people of this dominion, Facebook can close itself as far as I am concerned.


Posted by: Irish Eyes on 11th Nov 2008 at 12:08AM

I joined to look at a friend's wedding photos. The funny thing was that it instantly asked if it should contact the poeple in my e-mail address book and ask to be Friends. That included my daughter, who said yes and then spent the rest of the week loudly complaining that I could read everything she and her friends were talking about. i finally reminded her that she could "unfriend" me anytime she chose!
My mother calls it "My Face". ?

Posted by: Expatmum on 11th Nov 2008 at 12:48AM

Crystal Jigsaw's Avatar I just call it a bit of fun Confused

Posted by: Crystal Jigsaw on 11th Nov 2008 at 09:00AM

Exmoorjane's Avatar Unfriending! How awful would that be? Log and find you've been 'unfriended'.... heck, not sure my ego could take it!

Posted by: Exmoorjane on 11th Nov 2008 at 12:35PM

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