Cowart's Common Room

O God O God O God, and now the worlds most hideous couple has descended on me..... they are soooooooooooooooo awful, they arrived when I was in the middle of cooking my dinner, dragged in FOUR bags of groceries which HAD to ALL go in MY fridge - including THREE one litre bottles of fanta, and preceeded to take over my kitchen to make THEIR dinner, when I told them I don't do dinners.............. am reeling. There is NO WAY I can scatter his ashes in the morning with this vile prescence here....... am so shocked. The most anyone staying here has ever wanted to put in my fridge before is a bottle of wine....... am feeling dispossessed and horrifically upset. She knows about Richie, as I didn't want to take them in, but she wheedled and wheedled... she stood in front of our wedding photo and said "what a shame, he was such a nice looking guy too" Could have killed her there and then. And they are here for three whole nights... give me strength. They have gone for a walk, I see they have left their car windows down - is raining and nearly dark, but they are electric ones so nothing I can do to help. Shame...

Posted at 31st Dec 2008 - 07:41AM   Posted by Cowgirl   WHAT HAVE I DONE???? Comments: 22

Faith's Avatar Oh sweetheart you poor poor thing! You must feel violated, especially when you wanted to scatter dear Ritchie's ashes in the morning.

I presume there is no wasy to get rid of them, and they ARE paying? so that gives you some money at least.

Keep Ritchie's ashes with you, in the bedroom, for strength and you will be able to scatter them when these awful people have gone.

Never forget the power of the purple is with you.


Faith xx

Posted by: Faith on 31st Dec 2008 at 08:33AM

Cowgirl's Avatar Yes, paying, but it can NEVER be enough.... Rosemary has suggested I wait till the 7th being a month after his passing, instead. But there's no way I can do it with them here. Crying or Very sad

Posted by: Cowgirl on 31st Dec 2008 at 08:44AM

Toady's Avatar Can you spread some cow poo outside their bedroom window and pretend that you've lost all your electricity and tell them that for H & S they've just got to go?
Seriously though perhaps these two have been sent to tell you that the time wasn't right. A few days here or there doesn't matter really. Whenever it will be we'll all be there with you anyway.

Posted by: Toady on 31st Dec 2008 at 08:45AM

Faith's Avatar Yes Toady is right Cowgirl, they have been sent for a reason although it seems obscure now.

When you have decided the rearranged day - the 7th sounds good - then why not put up a No Rooms notice or whatever it is you do to stop people coming in so that you know you won't get bothered or bamboozled into letting people stay.

Posted by: Faith on 31st Dec 2008 at 09:06AM

KittyB's Avatar you poor thing they sound like a nightmare! Grin and bear it for a few days and scatter the ashes when you have peace and quiet. The 1st is symbolic, but I doubt Richie would mind either way. Whatever day you choose becomes the symbolic day for you. xx

Posted by: KittyB on 31st Dec 2008 at 10:10AM

Preseli Mags's Avatar They do sound like an absolute nightmare. I agree with everyone above, the right day for Richie's ashes will come. In the meantime, I am so glad it's raining into their car windows and may a plague of (purple) bed bugs descend on them and bite their bottoms.

Posted by: Preseli Mags on 31st Dec 2008 at 10:18AM

Mountainear's Avatar I agree with Kitty - whatever day you choose will be special.

Some people are beastly aren't they? Perhaps it's as well you don't do dinner - you might have been tempted to spit in the soup.

Posted by: Mountainear on 31st Dec 2008 at 10:21AM

Bayou's Avatar Poor Sam! I send you plenty of strong vibes and Preseli Mags' purple bed bugs which create ever lasting sweet itch to the invaders but with the remedy to get rid of the bugs after they have gone. Keep going, dear Cowgirl.

Posted by: Bayou on 31st Dec 2008 at 10:29AM

Ivy's Avatar What can I say apart that they sound like guests from hell and that you are the last person I would wish them on. Keep the ashes somewhere where they have no access and wait for your little private ceremony. Maybe Rosemary is right and the 7th is a good date with Christmas time being over and the house cleared of those monsters.

Posted by: Ivy on 31st Dec 2008 at 10:31AM

Westerwitch's Avatar Aw Sam that appears to be so berludy unfair - but my reaction as I read it was exactly the same as the others the time isn't right for you to release Richard's ashes yet - for whatever reason - maybe Richard has found a way to ask you to wait - pretty heavy handed, but as you say no way can you scatter them now - so it worked. So grin and bear it - open your heart and listen and look for a sign of what is the right time.

Posted by: Westerwitch on 31st Dec 2008 at 10:42AM

TIGGYWINKLE's Avatar Oh Sam, It's Murphy's law with a B&B, to have irritating and annoying guests at an inopportune time. I agree with everyone. Wait till they are gone, and when peace decends, scatter dear Richie's ashes, when the time is right. Bless you courage Sam. My thoughts are with you.

Posted by: TIGGYWINKLE on 31st Dec 2008 at 11:20AM

Westerwitch's Avatar You know Blossom is spot on - can't you just see the twinkle in his eye - maybe he left the windows down in the rain as a way of saying sorry - but with a smile too, but he had to find a sure fire way of making you wait.

Posted by: Westerwitch on 31st Dec 2008 at 11:38AM

Blossomcottage's Avatar I know at times I flutter about in a world of my own and see things quite differently to others. I have a very serious side to me but also, as some of you have seen a sense of humor.

Dear Sam,
Your recent life as been so full of sadness, and so little to smile about but here I see in this story, a glint of humor from your dear Richie,who can no longer sooth your pain in the mortal sense, my rather odd brain thinks maybe he has had a little to do with sending Mr and Mrs Appalling Guest, to reside with you for a day or three, something to make you rant and rave, let go of a few choice words and in time smile at his terrible choice of house guest!
You have already had the"open window" scenario, and who knows what more will come in the ensuing 72 hours.
Then when peace reigns again, you and the lovely Josh will be able to go to the chosen place and scatter Richie's ashes, and maybe you will then see his reasons for making you wait just a little longer.

re submitted as it did not sound quite right

Posted by: Blossomcottage on 31st Dec 2008 at 12:12PM

Frances's Avatar Well Sam, once again this swell group of friends has written very wisely.

I know that peace will return to your farm, and with it a golden day on which you and Josh can visit Oliver's tree and scatter Richie's ashes.


Posted by: Frances on 31st Dec 2008 at 01:06PM

Bradan's Avatar That is dreadful Sam, but I agree with the others, it seems like a sign to say that the time is not yet right, you will know when the right day comes. Hugs to you xx

Posted by: Bradan on 31st Dec 2008 at 01:26PM

ChrisH's Avatar Just what you didn't need - but I think Toady is spot on. I know how it feels to have the guest from Hell but it is not the case for me today. Take care.

Posted by: ChrisH on 31st Dec 2008 at 01:44PM

Camilla's Avatar Your visitors sound absolutely dreadful, poor you Sam.

I echo Faith's message, keep Richard's ashes with you in the bedroom, that way you will have the strength to get by for when you have your own peaceful solitude to scatter Richard's ashes on Olive tree when time is right for you.

We are here for you Sam, lots of purple vibes and hugs to you.


Posted by: Camilla on 31st Dec 2008 at 01:49PM

Lampworkbeader's Avatar Oh Sam. if there is no way of getting rid of them, the others are right, the day you chose to scatter your man's ashes just wasn't meant to be. May you be given strength until the right time comes
love lampie

Posted by: Lampworkbeader on 31st Dec 2008 at 02:02PM

SallysChateau's Avatar Sympathies indeed, can't quite figure out why they are putting groceries in your fridge ??Confused can't you politely and firmly tell them you would like some space ? I agree with the others, for some strange reason tomorrow was not to be the day. Take care. x

Posted by: SallysChateau on 31st Dec 2008 at 02:39PM

You do not owe them - or anyone - anything. Remember that! It is about you now and you must make sure everyone knows that.

Change your mind about scattering the ashes in their presence - do t another day. This will be a life experience for you and it is for you, end of story. You and Richard.

Even if it is shcoking for your visitors, just come clean with them and tell them what you need. If they do not like it they can go.

Don't do guilt - you deserve your own time.

Posted by: Crucifix on 31st Dec 2008 at 04:14PM

Withy Brook's Avatar How shocking, Sam. But look for the silver lining. Life has been so dreadful for you as you start on your journey of life without your beloved Richie. These awful people are one step too far - but - when they have gone, you will feel such a huge surge of relief. (That is the tiny bit of silver lining) Then when you are feeling recovered and ready you and Josh can spread the ashes at Oliver's tree. The 7th sounds good to me but I think you will know when the time is right. A very special God Bless to you tonight.

Posted by: Withy Brook on 31st Dec 2008 at 06:10PM

Irish Eyes's Avatar Sam alanna,

I agree with all the above, I think that you have been sent a message, and perhaps Little Christmas on 6th January might be a better day, perhaps at sunset as the day heads into the 7th.

As for that pair, may the rain affect their electric windows!Twisted Evil not an ounce of tact between them. Well little acorns always grow as Mum used to say. We look forward to the oak tree!!!Laughing keep that chin up


Posted by: Irish Eyes on 31st Dec 2008 at 07:19PM

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