Cowart's Common Room
Sam and Richie - Our candles light for you

There is a tradition in my family, on my Father’s side that, when a family member dies a candle is lit and placed in the window and kept alight, replenished when the need arises, for a month after that family member has gone onwards.

Tonight I ask you to look at my avatar, it is a candle, in a traditional holder, and it is in my window for Richie, I put it up last Monday night when I read Sams sad news, and it will remain my avatar for the next year.

It has been my joy and pleasure to have been able to talk to Richie over the past year. His was a wonderful voice full of life, kindness and a joy in being. Sam, his beloved wife, is someone who has become a very close friend in the past two years since we first tipped a tentative toe into the blogpool at the old CL site. It was one of the better adventures I have embarked upon in life, it brought me wonderful friends, and in Sam a fellow only child, a Piscean, and, if I may be permitted to say so - the sister I never had.

One morning last Summer I took it into my head to ring Sam for a gossip. It was after ten at night and Richie answered the phone, they were sitting together, curled up on the sofa, just spending time with each other. Richie was due in the hospital the following day and they were making the most of their time together.

The warmth in his voice as he greeted me with his usual greeting of “Hello IE-in-Ireland” would gladden the heart of anyone privileged to hear it. We chatted for a few minutes and then Sam, his golden girl, came on and for the next twenty minutes it was girl-gossip.

A couple of weeks later the humour came over me to ring again; this time it was after midnight here in Ireland and again Richie answered and we had our chat then with that lovely warm voice of his he told me he would go and find his girl - she was out in the garden. Somehow that is how we always picture Sam here, in their beloved garden.

In the days to come Sam, it is in that very garden you will find him, waiting to walk around with you, watch as you remove the odd sneaky weed, and the gentle breeze that touches your face with loving gentleness will be Richie.

It has been my privelege to call him friend; and it is and always will be my privelege to call Sam sister. We Piscean’s tend to shoal together.

I ask you all here tonight to join me, to virtually hold hands, light our candles and send out our love and bond of friendship to Sam. In the days ahead we want her to know that we are here for her, we will always be here for her, for that is the strength of the Common Room, we will never forget her and we will always remember Richie, whom most of us first grew to know from Sam’s lovely recording of life in Riverdale Farm. It may seem at the moment a hard thing to be there without him Sam, but he is there and he walks beside you.

Richard Taylor, Soul-Mate, Husband and true and loving friend,
Gone home, in peace. Ar dheis Dé a anamh dhilis.

Posted at 15th Dec 2008 - 07:00PM   Posted by Irish Eyes   Sam and Richie - Our candles light for you Comments: 14

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Westerwitch's Avatar That is absolutely beautiful Irish Eyes

Sam we are with you now and through this difficult day and all the days ahead.

Posted by: Westerwitch on 15th Dec 2008 at 07:02PM

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Irish Eyes's Avatar My heart is heavy with sorrow for Sam, and I a so glad that we are all joining in to be with her. Sam is a shining light - her strength amazing, and Richie will always be so proud of her.

Posted by: Irish Eyes on 15th Dec 2008 at 07:07PM

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That was lovely Irish Eyes. My candle is lit and my thoughts and prayers are with Sam today.

Posted by: HimalayanBlue on 15th Dec 2008 at 07:07PM

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Suffolkmum's Avatar That was so beautiful and very moving. I have a candle lit here - for Richard, and for Sam too. May our thoughts reach his soul, and our comfort reach Sam. Much love. xx

Posted by: Suffolkmum on 15th Dec 2008 at 07:14PM

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CalicoKate's Avatar Really lovely words Irish Eyes,
I join with the others wishing Sam the strength for today and those difficult times that follow.
CKx

Posted by: CalicoKate on 15th Dec 2008 at 07:16PM

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Westerwitch's Avatar I have very briefly phoned Sam and given her our love and she sends hers back - she is indeed a very special and amazingly brave lady

Posted by: Westerwitch on 15th Dec 2008 at 07:18PM

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Withy Brook's Avatar Irish Eyes, that was so beautiful and moving. I too have lit my candle - and one for all the Purple coos. Sam, you will know how much we support you through your time of deepest sadness. May Richie's soul rest in peace and the Lord comfort you and give you the strength to get through the days ahead. Much love, Withy

Posted by: Withy Brook on 15th Dec 2008 at 07:20PM

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So beautiful. So touching.
I have also lit a candle and send my thoughts to Sam.

Posted by: Casdok on 15th Dec 2008 at 07:27PM

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Irish Eyes's Avatar I have just spoken to Sam, very briefly, and our thoughts and prayers are keeping her going. She is, as WW says, an amazing lady. Her courage is fantastic. God bless you Sam.
xx

Posted by: Irish Eyes on 15th Dec 2008 at 08:01PM

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Mountainear's Avatar Beautifully put IE - and from the heart.

I lit a candle for Richie and a candle for Sam earlier and they are burning still in the window.

I hope there is some solace in the fact that so many people ringed around the globe are joined together with one supportive thought.

Posted by: Mountainear on 15th Dec 2008 at 09:14PM

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Snailbeachshepherdess's Avatar over the past weeks I have driven home and on the clear frosty nights there have been two bright stars so close together in the South, so bright they were remarkable - tonight I set off on the road home, the sky was clear and frosty and I looked for the stars -tonight there was only one, the otherhas gone now - I thought of Richie and Sam.
God Bless

Posted by: Snailbeachshepherdess on 15th Dec 2008 at 09:47PM

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Irish Eyes's Avatar That is really beautiful SBS, and beautifully put. Perhaps now the two stars shall shine as one, together.

Posted by: Irish Eyes on 15th Dec 2008 at 09:53PM

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Cait's Avatar That is a beautiful tribute IE to your friend and your soul-sister.

Posted by: Cait on 15th Dec 2008 at 11:56PM

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Frances's Avatar Irish Eyes, your words have gathered together so many emotions, and I knew that they would.

I am reading this much later than you wrote; it is already another day. My candle has now been lit. I do not think that there is any time when a candle could not be lit to remember Richie, and to celebrate the beautiful day that allowed our sweet Sam to meet him.

I was so struck by what you wrote about Sam as a sister. Yes, that is just it. I have brothers, but have had to find sisters well beyond my family borders. Sam is a sister, and Irish Eyes, you are a dear sister also.

xo

Posted by: Frances on 16th Dec 2008 at 02:08AM

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