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To Send...or not to Send?

I know that sending Christmas Cards is seen as environmentally unfriendly these days, and last year I decided not to send any. I tried to tell everyone who was not on the internet that I was going to do this.
Unfortunately, that was mostly the more aged members of the family who really looked forward to getting themSad !

To the others I tried to send a FREE e-card, but all anyone received from me was a blank page....probably due to my own ineptidude. There were lots of lovely ones on-line that you could pay for, but my Scrooge-like Christmas parsimony stopped me going down that route!

I still received lots of cards, and then felt awful...that sort of negative reciprocity feeling if you know what I mean!

I also used to put one of those letters in mine....you know the ones that many people can't abide!! However, it was a way to keep in touch with people, and I have to admit I do like reading those sent to me! It's an update when perhaps you haven't had time to keep up with people in the year. I think sending a letter, led to more friends popping in over the year too, which was niceVery Happy

I don't know what to do this year......

What's you view? Do you send cards?

Posted at 3rd Dec 2008 - 11:06AM   Posted by Salle de Bain   To Send...or not to Send? Comments: 14

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Lampworkbeader's Avatar I send Christmas cards. I will do anything to keep our village post office fully occupied. If we don't use our postal service we will lose it.

Posted by: Lampworkbeader on 3rd Dec 2008 at 11:24AM

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Faith's Avatar Oh yes I do send cards, and enjoy choosing them - mostly angels, or doves, or a nativity scene. Our parish priest used to say that your card might be the only religious thing in the house in the whole year! and people do enjoy getting cards. I like to write a snippet of news on each too, though I don't do a round robin letter.

Posted by: Faith on 3rd Dec 2008 at 12:03PM

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Crystal Jigsaw's Avatar I always send cards. I enjoy it as much as I enjoy receiving them.

CJ xx

Posted by: Crystal Jigsaw on 3rd Dec 2008 at 12:21PM

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Elizabethd's Avatar I love sending cards...and receiving them too. I do try to send cards that reflect the reality of Christmas.

Posted by: Elizabethd on 3rd Dec 2008 at 12:44PM

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Preseli Mags's Avatar I send Christmas cards. There are quite a few people on my list who I am only in touch with at Christmas. I have found that friends come and go; sometimes all you get is a Christmas card for years, then suddenly you have time to see each other again and the Christmas card thing keeps open that possibility.

I've never sent a round robin letter, but I love receiving them. I know that some people laugh at them and take the mickey, but I like them.

But I like e-mail cards too. I think it's probably a horses for courses thing. Perhaps I'll try sending a few e-cards this year to certain people. But all the "oldies" will get a good old-fashioned card.

Posted by: Preseli Mags on 3rd Dec 2008 at 01:33PM

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Pondside's Avatar I send cards by regular mail to family and close friends - and try to include a letter to those I know are interested. In recent years I've enjoyed making up my own email card, with a beautiful photo and a sentiment that has meaning to me.

Posted by: Pondside on 3rd Dec 2008 at 02:32PM

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Ivy's Avatar I love Christmas cards and I send cards. All this junk mail that fills my letterbox is the post that is not eco-friendly. I love receiving them and putting them up , which I couldn't do with an e-card.I do agree that one could forbear from sending all those ugly company cards but not the private ones! I feel they are more personal and have more quality if handwritten but I might be old-fashioned there.

Posted by: Ivy on 3rd Dec 2008 at 03:58PM

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Exmoorjane's Avatar Another card-sender here.. Like PM (keep seem to agree with her lately) I use them to keep in touch with people who would otherwise, I'm sure, fall off my radar. I love receiving them too - and recycle them for gift tags.
Re round robins, I confess I can't stand the ones that are all 'gosh, aren't we all so wonderful'......I once had one from a woman telling me in huge detail about her six (yup, six) holidays. Then there are the ghastly boasting ones about the wonder c hildren who are all straight A* academics with vast sporting and musical prowess. Sorry but they jus tmake me want to vomit.
To be honest, I prefer a brief handwritten note - with a follow-up email...but can quite see that they work just fine for some people.
Also not a huge fan of e-cards......but again, that's just a personal preference....

Posted by: Exmoorjane on 3rd Dec 2008 at 06:10PM

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Elizabethm's Avatar I am with PM and EJ again. I do use cards to keep in touch although did have a few years when I was on my own with the kids when I didn't send any and it didn't seem to make any difference to the number I received.
I am also a big hater of the round robin. Perhaps I have been unlucky in the ones I have received but they do seem to have majored in remarkable achievements!

Posted by: Elizabethm on 3rd Dec 2008 at 08:07PM

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I too send cards. I love them. I take Christnmas as a time when it is okay to remember people you do not normally think about, or to admit to thinking about those you think about all the time.

I use the season to say thank you to friends and family.

I make some cards, re-use bits from others and buy charity in the first place. I used to spend a lot of money on truly beautiful work of art type cards, but then decided I could do three good deeds in one card, giving to a friend, buying from charity and using the post office services.

I keep special cards I receive and use them as decoration each year. I think a lot of people do this now.

I always recycle. Local schools like them for the kids to make things out of and a lot of charities take them too.

I do like ecards - provided they are nice ones. They work when you have not had time to send a card, and can often be mroe spontaneous. Not a replacement for real cards, but more like an additional communication aid.

Posted by: Crucifix on 3rd Dec 2008 at 08:27PM

various approachesvarious approaches
Well, some years I send to everyone on my large list and others years just to a few.. Over the years we have had to cope with some very tragic situations and I found by chance that if I missed cards one year it was ok, and I could send cards the next year. This year I have rather a landmark birthday so all those who have been invited to the December party will not get a card, even if they can't come. I simply wont have time. In the years I missed out cards sometimes I sent a summer letter with our news. We have moved house several times and it was the only way to keep in touch with old friends... and some have known me a very long time.
I like hearing news from friends and family, and in these busy times contact, even just annually must be good. It meant this year having a friend to stay from Aussie who I had not seen for 23 years and we first made friends at school together aged 8 years. The annual letters and occasional emails had given each of us a snapshot of the others life. It was brilliant, we laufghed so much and even went to visit our old school.
Happy Christmas to everyone on here... just enjoy the time with friends and family, that for me is what matters most.

Posted by: Arcadian advocate on 3rd Dec 2008 at 08:34PM

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Cait's Avatar There is a forum full of postings on this subject. I am one of the few who doesn't send cards any more; I haven't done for a few years now. I think I can write to friends I don't see when I want to not when I am pressurised to do so, all at once. I haven't lost any friends over it. Now my children are grown up I dislike Christmas to be honest, not so much the day itself but the pressure and the commercialism of it all. And all the excesses! I try to ignore it and hope it goes away.
For those folk with firm Christian beliefs I respect their love of what it is meant to be - their religious celebration... even if the Yuletide was hijacked originally from the pagansSmile
Wouldn't it be better if we were merry and showed goodwill to all every day and not just once a year?

Posted by: Cait on 3rd Dec 2008 at 09:11PM

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Withy Brook's Avatar Have just tried to find the Christmas card thing on the forum and can't. Where on earth was it? I send them, with printed address lables to save a great deal of time, though I do not really like them. The cards are mostly to keep in touch with relatives and friends far afield but far too many are sent to people I see regularly. Seriously considering not doing those ones next year. Where necessary I write a note to keep the recipient up-to-date but not on the majority - the time factor again.

Posted by: Withy Brook on 3rd Dec 2008 at 09:30PM

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Patsy's Avatar Having moved around a lot, I'm lucky to have friends all over the place and I love to send out annual Christmas cards to keep in touch. Our lives are all so busy with children and work so sometimes a year will go by without any other contact.
But out of sight does not mean out of mind and fortunately my pals are forgiving, as I hope to be in return when they don't phone for awhile.
But unforgivable was the 3 sheets of closely typed (both sides) A4 round robin letter from an old acquaintance. It was practically a blow by blow account of their family's last year. Winning football team.. blah blah; top in trumpet exam blah blah; only pupil picked for..blah blah...you get the picture?
Rolling Eyes
Now I'm as proud a mum as any and often include a photo of the boys to far flung friends, but there is a limit..
I was SO tempted to write a spoof letter back...fell off the horse...children's appalling spelling tests....piling on the pounds...leaking pipes (dish washer ...and me!) Oh I was sorely tempted...
Twisted Evil
Or am I too bah humbug??Laughing

Posted by: Patsy on 3rd Dec 2008 at 09:35PM

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