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Over-reaction?

Just had an email from a distant cousin to say she has entered my details on a family history site. I've looked at the site and find my name and email address entered, managed to alter the email but haven't been able to change the other information. I'm really cross she didn't have the courtesy to ask first- am I just being a grumpy old bag, or am I justified in feeling aggrieved?

Posted at 2nd Nov 2008 - 03:47PM   Posted by Lily   Over-reaction? Comments: 15

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Pondside's Avatar I'd say that your cousin needs to get a short and clear email message from you. Putting your information up on a public site was a blatant breach of confidentiality - would she have spray painted it on the side of a building?
In short - I'm with you on this one.

Posted by: Pondside on 2nd Nov 2008 at 03:57PM

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Faith's Avatar Surely if you contact her to say you are not happy then she will remove your details. Sometimes on these sites info is not available for anyone to read, only those approved in some way.

Posted by: Faith on 2nd Nov 2008 at 04:00PM

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Cait's Avatar You have every right to feel aggrieved.

Posted by: Cait on 2nd Nov 2008 at 04:09PM

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Elizabethd's Avatar No one has any right to publicise another pertson's details. Ask her to delete it, if possible.

Posted by: Elizabethd on 2nd Nov 2008 at 04:12PM

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SallysChateau's Avatar HL has to put up with exactly the same and is furious, private pics of his family splattered all over the web with personal details of the history, I think its a real intrusion into peoples privacy, tell her you are not happy, if she can't remove it though remember there are zillions upon zillions of isimiliar nfo on the web like this so it sort of gets diluted.

Posted by: SallysChateau on 2nd Nov 2008 at 04:17PM

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Westerwitch's Avatar I would feel exposed if that was done to me and I too would feel it was an infringement of my privacy. She probably hasn't thought it through and put herself in your place as to how you feel - think you might need to set her straight.

Sally is right though there are zillions of such info on the web.

Posted by: Westerwitch on 2nd Nov 2008 at 04:32PM

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Exmoorjane's Avatar A lot of people are very naive about the web - I certainly was when I started posting etc. Agree she should have asked and that you are perfectly within your rights to ask for it to be removed....
I would do the same.

Posted by: Exmoorjane on 2nd Nov 2008 at 05:11PM

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Extremely bad mannered if you ask me. Agree with EJ that you have every right to ask her to remove it.

Posted by: @themill on 2nd Nov 2008 at 05:42PM

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Withy Brook's Avatar The first and most important rule of family tree hunters is that you DO NOT add living people to 'on line' sites. (I hope that I have stuck to it!!) Certainly it should NEVER be done without the permission of the person concerned. A relation of G's did it once - not me as far as I remember - but when I pointed out to her that it simply was not done, she removed it at once. In fact, I think it is breaking the law, but as has been said, these things are all over the web.

Posted by: Withy Brook on 2nd Nov 2008 at 05:50PM

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Fennie's Avatar I completely agree. You should never publicise someone's details without their permission

Posted by: Fennie on 2nd Nov 2008 at 06:47PM

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Faith's Avatar Withy, I do add living people to my family tree on Ancestry.co.uk and I have an open tree (i.e. any member of the site can view it) as opposed to a private tree (where no-one can view it except yourself and anyone you choose to invite) BUT if a member of the site views my Tree they will only see the words LIVING (surname) and no details, if a person is alive, and all the details if they are dead.

Posted by: Faith on 2nd Nov 2008 at 07:36PM

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Withy Brook's Avatar Thanks for that Faith - very helpful

Posted by: Withy Brook on 2nd Nov 2008 at 09:36PM

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Lily's Avatar Thanks for your views, I've emailed her and asked her to delete all reference to me. She replies that she has done so, but the details are still there. I've been able to edit the name + user name, but it just reverts to the original. I see she has also posted pictures of my great grandmother- not quite so cross now as daughter-in-law has made a few choice suggestions of sites cousin might like! Not that I'm a total bitch....

Posted by: Lily on 2nd Nov 2008 at 10:40PM

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Camilla's Avatar Eek.! think it best that your sister remove it Lily as soon as possible. Let us know how all goes.

Posted by: Camilla on 3rd Nov 2008 at 12:34AM

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Salle de Bain's Avatar Same thing happened to my husband. Cousins in the US published his whole family on a tree...names, photos, dates of birth etc. He was furious .....and made them remove the data.

Posted by: Salle de Bain on 3rd Nov 2008 at 10:09AM

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