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On a recent visit to the theatre we met one of our former neighbours. As we greeted each other he announced "Oh I've left.....(named wife) and this is my new partner". Totally taken by surprise we both said we were sorry to hear this, then turned to new lady and expressed the conventional pleasure in the introduction. It seemed so odd to be expressing sympathy for the separation but at the same time trying to be friendly/polite etc to new lady. Seems a tricky line to tread.

Posted at 21st Feb 2013 - 08:41AM   Posted by Lily   What to Say? Comments: 5

Fennie's Avatar Sounds as though you got it about right. Very Happy

Posted by: Fennie on 21st Feb 2013 at 09:11AM

Peterwf's Avatar Very tricky, the same has happened to me after my bereavement, but a dear friend suggested that when any relationship changes there will be a period of adjustment, there will be those who still use the previous girlfriends name for instance.
This is their new path and we need to support those who are starting again, not easy.
We can never know all the details and reasons so no matter how hard it is one shouldn't judge, even harder to do if the previous was a friend also.
I always say, do not worry about the egg-shells, they can see it in ones eyes.

Posted by: Peterwf on 21st Feb 2013 at 09:14AM

Westerwitch's Avatar I guess the best thing to do is what you did - make the right noises and step back and don't get involved.

Posted by: Westerwitch on 21st Feb 2013 at 10:51AM

Withy Brook's Avatar One is always so taken aback. Think you took the right lines.

Posted by: Withy Brook on 21st Feb 2013 at 09:22PM

Camilla's Avatar Sounds that you got it just right Lily.

Posted by: Camilla on 22nd Feb 2013 at 01:43AM

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