Cowart's Common Room
Christmas is Coming

We were discussing today, in a vague sort of a way, what to do for Christmas. The problem is that everyone in the family would prefer to host Christmas rather than to be a guest. No, that's not true - everyone except me - for in truth I would rather be a guest provided that I was a guest in a venue to which everyone else went. I'd like a big Christmas party where everyone stays over and perhaps even goes to midnight mass just to provide some sort of spiritual cleansing and perhaps the opportunity of hearing any animals not actually asleep talking in a language we can understand for there is always something quite mystical and out of this world about the first early morning hour of Christmas Day with snow in the air and on the far mountains if not actually on the local ground.

But all that demands a big house (and a nearby church) and lots of rooms - not completely impossible, you understand - and then later, once the presents have been unwrapped from their hide-out under the tree, you can have one of those interminable five or six hour meals that, because they are so long drawn out, never actually make you feel full or bloated at all however much you eat or drink and which start with oysters and champagne and finish with wonderful goodwill, and maybe a glass of Baileys to watch the repeat of Riverdance with and wonder at that special Irish gene that gives their dancers double hips, the children and old folk falling fast asleep, the reminiscences of the rest of us abounding and love and longing, in all its various forms permanent and ephemeral, floating over everything. Then in the morning there's the sprightly orgy of clearing up preceding a brisk and windy walk by the foamy sea and maybe watching again the undating film of Casablanca, fresh today as when it was made. Here's looking at you, kid.'

But assembling the company is easier said than done. Everyone wants to wake up in their own bed on Christmas morning. Does anyone else know this problem?

Posted at 7th Nov 2010 - 03:47PM   Posted by Fennie   Christmas is Coming Comments: 8

Faith's Avatar If your post had ended at the second paragraph, I would have put 'dream on'Laughing

That Christmas fantasy would be idyllic, the reality for me will be very different. One year, not so long ago, they were all squeezed into this tiny cottage watching Finding Nemo, and I went out into the garden and was pooper scooping and thinking I'd rather do this on Christmas Day than be squashed up on a sofa watching a film I don't want to see with someone else's kids and mother!

Thinking about it I have never woken up in any other than my own bed on Christmas morning.

I'd be very happy to wake up in someone else's and leave all the work to them!!!

Someone else's house I meanEmbarassedLaughing

I actually do enjoy Christmas though this post doesnt sound like it!

Posted by: Faith on 7th Nov 2010 at 04:23PM

Withy Brook's Avatar Is there such a family in existence that can enjoy Fennie's idyll? We have had all together (just for that long drawn-out meal) and that was long enough for the bickering or even open hostility to break out. This both here with the mixed famillies and at my family home with me and my siblings, Mother and appendages - that was worse and happened a number of times.
We are lucky in that most years one of the family wants to come here, and that is fine. Last year it was both my childen so there were 8 people sleeping in our not very big house. This year it is one of G's with 2 little girls and another with 2 big girls coming for the long-drawn-out-meal. It should work - fingers crossed Rolling Eyes

Posted by: Withy Brook on 7th Nov 2010 at 05:30PM

Resewnsally's Avatar We tend to stay at home, other half hates sleeping anywhere but his own bed, and the only family member on my side who would have room for us, is terribly disorganised, so the kids could wait a long time for xmas dinner! Laughing My family and his family don't get on so we can't all be together, and it seems to be less stressful just to stay at home. Happier xmas all around. Smile

Posted by: Resewnsally on 7th Nov 2010 at 10:42PM

Frances's Avatar Fennie, even if we have just gotten past the glories of Halloween, I admit that my mind has already been drawn to Christmas.

If this post of yours gets more comments, maybe it could be transferred over to the forum?

I have always absolutely loved the entire premise of Christmas, the religious beginnings, the pagan inheritance, the light in the dark of December.

Ahh. The family bit. This is where I feel the call of the forum.
Without husband or children, and a reluctance to continue to play the role of child to my own parents past the age of ... I won't say, my Christmas plans and wishes are complex.

Even so, I still love the season, and have already got an Advent calendar, several handmade gifts completed, and need to start working on my watercolor Christmas card painting very soon. Forum?

Posted by: Frances on 8th Nov 2010 at 12:11AM

Fennie's Avatar Not sure how you transfer something to a forum - but happy for this to be moved if someone shows me how and others want to carry on.

Posted by: Fennie on 8th Nov 2010 at 09:17AM

Westerwitch's Avatar We stay here and the kids come and visit and we have a tradition of going to Lixtroll's and her family for Xmas Eve (our next door neighbours for those who don't know) and then they all come to us for Xmas morning breakfast - brilliant - then we have a family Xmas dinner and sit bloated in front of the TV. There will be no Wildchild this year though as she will be living it up in Australia.

Posted by: Westerwitch on 8th Nov 2010 at 09:40AM

Westerwitch's Avatar Fennie it is just a matter of copying and pasting your original piece and then copying and pasting the responses.

Posted by: Westerwitch on 8th Nov 2010 at 09:40AM

Do you know Fennie, that was our Christmas last year. It was so magical, snow, family, long lazy lunches and amazingly no bickering, just lots of fun, games and festivities. And blissfully, no TV. I shall look on it fondly as this year youngest is in NZ (playing cricket) and I'm dreading Christmas without him.

Posted by: @themill on 8th Nov 2010 at 06:12PM

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